Kate, let me be one of thousands to congratulate you on your new bundle of joy and to welcome you to the three kids club. I’d like to say that it was normal for most of us to step out of the hospital six hours after giving birth as fabulous as you just did, but that would make me a liar. Personally, it took me four days and every ounce of my energy to drag myself and my twins out of the hospital, once they kicked me out. Bringing your babies home can be a bag of emotions, nervousness, joy, and exhaustion. But, this being the third time around at this, I’m sure you are a pro, and I am truly impressed and happy for your amazingly resilient recovery. You look gorgeous, regal, and joyous.
While I wasn’t pregnant three times and I’m DEFINITELY not royal by any means, I have learned a few things being a mom of three. I’ve learned, more than anything, that moms of three don’t need advice, what we need is a hug! So, here’s my virtual hug to you girl. You are going to need it… Even all the nannies in the world doesn’t take you away from the worry, the instincts, and the time suck that having three kids entails. (Although I’m sure it helps!) Right now you will be consumed with the necessities of taking care of an infant, but (as I’m sure you know from your first two) don’t forget to spend that quality time with your older children. They need to just as much as they did before (if not more).
So welcome to my mom of three mom squad, Kate. Welcome to never having enough arms, bandaids, or patience. Welcome to being always outnumbered, even with your prince of a husband helping you. 😉 Welcome to the symphony of someone ALWAYS crying. Welcome to the minivan, multiple trips to the car, too many hands to hold crossing the street. Welcome to someone always needing you, and at least one kid up at night. Welcome to the “who pooped” game and constantly smelling baby butts. Welcome to the overwhelming amount of love and joy three kiddos brings, and the tribe of women that are right there with you and don’t judge you when one of those kids is having a melt down. Welcome to the realization that life will never be the same, but oh so much better.
Who doesn’t dream of playdates at the palace? Tea with the duchess (while our kids scream over baby toys)… And their kiddos eventually marrying into the royal family? 😉 So, yeah, Kate, you can hang with us. Congratulations, beautiful! Way to take on motherhood of three with grace and beauty!
We are in such an exciting and opportunistic time for mom businesses! I know, I know, you are like, “Ugh, I’m so sick of my friends trying to sell me something on Facebook.” Okay, give me a chance to change your perspective for a second.
Our society has had gone on a little bit of a rollercoaster ride when it comes to family life and the woman’s role. From frontier pioneer woman to 1950’s housewife, to “Sex and the City” era uber successful business women, and it’s my belief that it’s now coming back around to the necessity of mom staying at home. Now, before you write me off as old-fashioned or worse, I think one of the main reasons it’s going that way is because of the in-affordability of childcare in the United States. The economy has not treated us millennials all that well and personally our family has made sacrifices for this reason, and I’m sure many more families have made choices based on a poor economy.
For us, my husband chose to join the military after law school to help pay off his student loan debt (and to serve the country of course- but the loan debt helped that decision). Because of his service in the military, my degree in elementary education through Arizona State was thrown a slight curve ball. See, as a teacher, you must obtain certification through each state you work in and moving every three years doesn’t make you the most appealing of candidates. It was definitely necessary, however, especially when we didn’t have kids, for me to work, so I went from job to job as we moved. At the same time I knew I needed something that would move with me, that could be mine and help me feel empowered.
I started health and fitness coaching online in 2013 before I even knew what a MLM was and no one was trying to add me to random FB groups asking me to buy lipstick from them. Four years later, while it still bugs me to be added to groups from random strangers (not a business tactic I suggest- moms), I think we have an awesome revolution on our hands. Mom bosses are a group of women that want the best of both worlds and a lot of them are actually getting it! We aren’t willing to negotiate time with family with the need to provide for it. We are in control- control of our hours, our success, and our commitment. We don’t have to look for positions of employment in male driven offices that fail to understand our home life. We don’t even have to pay for someone else to watch our kiddos (if we don’t want to) 😉
I’m pretty sure when men sold door-to-door or supported their families through their commission selling household goods, no one rolled their eyes and told them to get a real job. A millionaire is still a millionaire whether a man or a woman, money is still as green in our hands as a man’s. Although, our biggest critiques seem to be more from other women than from men…
So next time you get an invite from someone (possibly me) asking you to join her challenge group, or buy her product, I ask you to stop for a moment (before ignoring her and never answering- which is worse than an outright “no thanks”) and think about the fact that she’s a part of this revolution. She might be paving the way for YOU even, to have it all. Your small purchase will make her day, help support her family, and maybe even make our society better by allowing her to raise her kids herself without financial strife. So, go out and support mom business!